Amidst the cliches and all the self help talk that abound one is challenged to determine what makes sense and how to focus one’s energy and attention towards achieving one’s most important goals. Oftentimes, disappointments are slung your way one after the other in such a manner that you are seduced by the notion of giving up, moving on, or retreating. This is the moment, my friend, when you need to dig your heels in and continue with your agenda for the miracle you want is just around the corner, waiting for the perfect blend of your own effort, optimism, and opportunity.
In facing challenges and setbacks, I find I must work hard at being vigilant about acquiring more skillful and creative ways to deal with the pain and thereby circumvent or at times, even forcefully thrust off the habit of waging war on myself. I have learned to cast a critical gaze inward, accept the emotions for what they are, and gently nudge myself to rise above the pain and turn my face to the sun.