WE HAVE THE POWER TO PAINT OUR POSSIBILITIES!

Circle of Friends, International Welcomes Guest Writer Karen Pableta Wade who reminds us that there is magic at our fingertips and we have the option to paint our lives in soulful, vibrant and inspiring colors!

Karen Pableta Wade

SHE PAINTS HER OWN CANVAS

Awakened by the rising sun,

Mother Nature painting Her canvas

She reluctantly awakens, not knowing what the day will bring. 

There is not enough paint in her can, but determined,

she arms herself with the tools she has and she begins to paint;

realizing that she has the power to paint her day, on her blank canvas. 

She paints power.

She paints resilience.

She paints faith.

She paints, and as she does, her can becomes full;

full of bright colors, 

Joy, peace, love, strength. 

She paints butterflies.

She paints the beautiful rain

which soothes and calms her. 

Photo Credit: Ronald McClean, Jr.

She claims the day;

and with joy she steps boldly,

knowing that like *Zarephath

who used her last food supply when asked by Elijah,

that her paint bucket will always be full, 

as long as she trusts and believes. 

Note for the Reader: Reference

*The story of Elijah and the widow Zarephath. 1Kings 17:1-124 ESV

She paints joy, peace, love, strength

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WE ARE THE SURVIVORS!

JANUARY 2021

                                  COME WHAT MAY, WE ARE THE SURVIVORS!

This was the theme that evolved from my GATHERING OF FRIENDS on New Year’s Eve as we tuned in via Zoom to celebrate this magnificent thing called life. While we acknowledged the trials and tribulations of 2020, each member of the group ranging from 20 something to 60 something noted that shelter -in-place nudged them inward to look closely at their lives and to make the decision and then take action to live more meaningfully. While our activities, yearnings and achievements varied, when I examined closely what each of us said, it was readily summarized into this simple affirmation:

SIMPLIFY. PRIORITZE & DON’T SETTLE.

We discussed that simplifying our lives meant decluttering our homes and wardrobes, letting go of emotional baggage and accepting people for who they are meant. In all cases, we agreed that this rested on the recognition that we held the responsibility for changing our attitude within the relationships and in some cases, it meant easing out of a friendship or just letting go. We then set about deciding what is most important, most meaningful in our lives and took actions to focus on these. Above everything else, we recognized the value of integrity; of staying true to ourselves and doing everything to make sure that we did not settle. From this awakening in 2020, we are ready to step boldly into 2021 knowing that come what may, we are the SURVIVORS.

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GIFTING OURSELVES TO THE WORLD WE INHABIT

WELCOME 2020!

What will it take to live in abundance and achieve my wildest dreams?

As the year draws to a close, like many others, I find myself reviewing the year and looking forward to the new one about to open itself unto us..welcoming, daring us to achieve our wildest dreams! And this year, I am intentional in positioning myself to take on that challenge. What will it take, I ask myself, to live in abundance and achieve my wildest dreams? And the inspiration comes softly to me in the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, In deep faith, light up the incense of your heart. To do so, I realise, means acknowledging and accepting the wondrous abundance of the Universe, drinking from the gourd of potential which I have been gifted and giving back to the Universe in multi-faceted ways that reflect the talents, the energy, the knowledge that have shaped me into who I am today.

I acknowledge and embrace the wondrous gifts of the Universe!

As the light dawns on 2020, I seek to engage in a radical openness to the reality of the world in which I live. To peer deeply into the trials and the triumphs; the beauty and the ugliness and discern the lessons to be learned. That incense that lights my heart gives me direction-intuitively -on what matters most; what I should honor and what I should let go. I endeavour to listen intently to the exultant beating of my heart that awakens me to the wonders of the world as well as to the gut feeling that tells me something is amiss and it is time to walk away.  It is this incense of the heart that is my greatest gift of empowerment and I want to train myself to listen intently and honor this intuitive wisdom and allow it it to enshroud and dust its power all over me.

As this source empowers me, I want to become an example to others and gather from their wisdom as well. How wonderful it will be to join hands, tapping into our gifts, gaining strength from each other to inspire, to heal, and to transform the world. The New Year with the promise of a new itinerary, both linear and intuitive, imaginative or real, opens a portal to travel to enjoy the charm and the beauty of diverse regions, to write and elevate my muse, to accept the support others provide and show gratitude through the way I dress, wear my hair, and show up in public. 2020 offers me the canvas to become the living story of my most fundamental beliefs.

2020 offers me the canvas to become the living story of my most fundamental beliefs.
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CRAFT YOUR DAILY RITUALS INTO A PERSONAL LEGACY OF PEACE

The whistling of the birds beckon me to the back porch every morning and there I sit for some time savoring the break of day, looking out into the woods, enjoying the peaceful vibes before I have to get dressed and leave for work. The truth is, this simple act has become a ritual, an ordinary one at that; it sets the stage for my day and I look forward to it with a calming sense of anticipation. Ritual surrounds us. They sprinkle our days with anticipation and engage us in ordinary actions that are likely to bring us comfort and peace. The simple act of looking out into the garden and the woods beyond has become a ritual which sets the tone of my day and anchor me in the belief of the power of the Universe and the beauty of Nature in spite of what may lie ahead.

And this I believe is the power of ritual. It is that calming force of ordinary symbolic actions in which we participate every day without having to seek permission from anyone; without having to pay a due and often without needing any supporting resources. This is soulful empowerment which restores our capacity to continue our journey and renew our faith in what it means to be human. Of course, there are other rituals broader in scope such as the ritual of birthday celebrations, baptisms, cultural ceremonies, and family fellowships including Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners among others. These rituals cement our connection to others and strengthen our faith in the circle of life to which we belong. These activities are a significant beat within the larger rhythmic pattern of our existence as members of a family, an ethnic group, a cultural tribe or religious group and they are just as important as those rituals we perform by ourselves, for together they restore our soul. They empower us and confirm our path on the journey towards peace and fulfillment as we seek to understand the essence of our humanity.

I believe that rituals help us to take a break from the pressures of life and enliven our spirit.

 

One Love, Marvalous!!!

 

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IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE WINDOW THROUGH WHICH WE VIEW LIFE

WHEN THE SIMPLE BECOMES AN EXTRA-ORDINARY EXPERIENCE

What we see when traveling along the way, depends on the clarity of the window through which we peer at life.

 I am big on turning experiences into memories and this weekend came upon one such serendipitous moment driving to the grocery store. Along the way, a group of cyclists traveled together in perfect sync, slowing traffic and giving drivers like me a momentary glimpse into their practice and dedication. And as I got closer, I noticed these stalwarts weren’t youngsters as I had thought, rather, thirty-somethings and beyond.  I also noticed it was a mixed gender group and one man had the compelling Jamaican phrase, One Love emblazoned on the back of his shirt. This, of course, doubled my admiration and propelled me into a day of reflection and inspiration. The truth is, we are all collectors of bits and pieces of memories that may push us forward, or pull us back if we allow this. How we fare in life is definitely how we choose to respond to our experiences and what we make of them. For what we see when traveling along the way, depends on the clarity of the window through which we peer at life.

This fleeting moment reminded me that I should embrace the journey, both the challenges and the rewards. I believe that we can pull from each experience in such a manner that it emboldens us to step even more boldly as we journey ahead. Sometimes the seemingly insignificant experience though unplanned can reward with unexpected treasures if we open our minds to it. At such moments we recognize that life is beautiful, as it was meant to be. We can enjoy such moments with no compromise. A simple experience like this may be giving us the opportunity to begin a new story.

(What are you waiting for?)

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LIVE THE LIFE!!!

As much as it is swept by grief, life is washed with joy embedded in the simple pleasures of the Universe. 

Hold your face to the sun, I tell my dear friend caught in the throes of mental anguish.

To my thirty- something friend fatigued by the disappointments of corporate life, I say throw caution to the wind and pursue your heart’s desire. Create your summer palace because you are the one most suited to do so.

MARVALOUS MB 4 JULY 28As for me, coming to terms with loss and stepping onto new pathways this summer, I tell myself: go find yourself in the sea, holding onto e.e. cummings’ words, for whatever we lose (a you or a me), it is ourselves we find in the sea. One of my dearest friends offers guidance by her example of stepping outside of an unfulfilling marriage to start anew, setting up home by the sea and thus fulfilling a deep yearning of the soul even within this challenging time. Her message is one I share with you: Live the life and take time to find peace. These past months have certainly strengthened my conviction that within despair lies the magic of rising up and engaging in the potential of new opportunities; of seizing hope from the deep recesses of the dreams we harbor. As we journey through the Circle of Life, we recognize that as much as it is swept by grief, life is also washed with joy.

Time spent at the beach this summer has been the awakening of hope and journeying towards fulfilling new dreams. So I say to you my friends..

Step boldly. It’s time to see what you can do!

 

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COLOR ME BOLD!

COLOR ME BOLD!

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Colors remind me that I can create my story in whatever shade I want.

As I celebrated my birthday this past week [much of it spent outdoors in the park, walking on the beach, and watching the birds come take a dip in the backyard pool] I couldn’t help thinking about how much I enjoyed the resplendent palate of Mother Nature which got me thinking about the way I absolutely love colors….and love to wear those colors!

Colors both energize and soothe me. Whenever I wear blue for example, I feel like I am wearing the ocean; its beauty, its magnificent force; the ebb and flow and the rhythm that’s in sync with my beating heart. Then there is the green in the landscape that takes me back to the gynep tree in my grandmother’s yard loaded with memories of long summer days spent swinging in that tree with my siblings and cousins while we devoured the fruit from the laden branches. This love of green nudges me often to reach for that deep green ring I bought in Cuba last year which I often pair with the soft fluctuating shades of green in the bracelet I bought in Chania, Greece the year before.  Not only do these variegated shades energize me but they also become symbolic of the fantastic experiences I had in these countries. Might this obsessive love of color be a manifestation of my Afrocentric heritage, I often ask myself? A woman born under the brilliance of the Jamaican sun whose ancestry is rooted in the distant continent of the Motherland.

 

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Oh how I love the corrugated resplendent colors of the Jamaican landscape, shamelessly beautiful and intoxicating in its invitation. I am mesmerized by the variegated tones of orange from the corals to the tangerines and red splashes of sunset as I watch the evening steal across the sky while I sit and look out at the horizon from my mother’s verandah. Tropical, sultry and definitely with an attitude, orange offers an expansive palate to choose from. I experience such a sense of vibrancy when I drape myself in these tones, defying any challenges that may come my way that day.

Marvalous in Living Colors!!!

As much as colors excite my spirit, they also calm and cool. The white walls of my bedroom for example, are often a striking contrast to the rich bold colors I may enrobe myself on any given day, offering comfort and a chance to slow down.

Colors remind me that I can create my story in whatever shade I want. Sometimes I wear colors as a way of dreaming out loud without saying a word to anyone. I can walk around in creative bliss and simply Color Myself Bold!

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Is it Possible to Live a Life of Ecstasy in 2016?

Open your heart & be a loving witness to yourself in 2016

The Native Americans say that we can live a life of ecstasy everyday as long as we focus on the spiritual world and honor our place in it. From my perspective, this translates into the process of creativity and enjoying the endless possibilities of the natural world without succumbing to the limitations our fellow humans so often impose on us. Whilst it’s true that we will face challenges every-day, we can choose to accept this as part of life, face them with all we’ve got and continue the journey with the embodiment of an awakened heart that is attuned to all the beauty and blessings that abound around us. Writing, traveling and amateur photography are central paths on my journey to a life of ecstasy. These are activities that inspire, nurture, and transform me continuously. I know too that they won’t take place in happenstance; that I have to plan for them and in fact nurture the process as much as I expect to be nurtured. Picasso stated this so clearly many years ago: If I don’t show up at the canvas, there is no muse that is going to come get me.Cuba Primary School

This past year I worked intentionally to show up at the canvas and participated in events that were powerfully evocative and transforming. A visit to Cuba was an experience that reminded me of the tenacity of the human spirit as well as the serenity and power of the land. CUBA VINTAGE RIDENotwithstanding the fact that I developed intense gastro-intestinal illness and had to be taken to the doctor, (Yes, I swallowed the water although I was told not to), I was moved by the simple pleasures of the land and the vibrancy of the people. The magnificent architecture and the brilliance of the landscape provided me with exciting photo opportunities which I must tell you my friend, was pure ecstasy.

Later that summer, a meditation retreat in the Colorado Mountains heightened my awareness of the need to work intentionally to bring balance to my life. My wandering mind hasn’t quite gotten the hang of quiet meditation just yet, however, I consider myself a work of art in progress. With that said, I must say, I garnered new friendships which I hope will last a lifetime and yes…I marveled at the photo opportunities.

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In October, after a few years of planning, my large, dysfunctional, eclectic and magnificent family from all corners of the globe came together in celebration of our Dressekie heritage hailing back to 1845 when my/our great grandfather settled in Jamaica from Scotland, bought land and married and had seven children with my great grandmother Elizabeth after whom my lovely mother is named.

Brrringtin Heights3  (2).jpgTruth be told, it was no easy journey getting here, however, the experience was transformative!!! As the convoy of nine cars journeyed through winding unpaved roads to the town of Dressekie founded by Great Grandfather, I experienced what the Native Americans know only too well as ecstasy.

In search of ecstasy my friend, I advise you to open your heart and be a loving witness to yourself in 2016. Dr. Marvalous

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Nothing Feels as Good As Becoming Who You Are Meant to Be!!!

 I am the Best Version of Myself!!The Spell of Sweet Moments
Grace ,Power & Bravery Marva & Christine 2 001
IMG_3741Crazy!!

Keeping my Heart Open!
Keeping my Heart Open!
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FAMILY, FRIENDS & SOUL TRAIN MUSIC: THE MAGIC OF NOSTALGIA

Two weekends ago I spent the time celebrating with childhood friends.  And I had the time of my life doing so: dancing, catching up on childhood memories and laughing till the tears flowed.

Marvalous at any Age: Vintage Marva 1989

Marvalous at any Age: Vintage Marva 1989

My husband and I traveled to Atlanta to attend my life long friend’s birthday anniversary party which was based on the seventies Soul Train theme. The music, decorations, and disco lights took us back to a special place in time and the nostalgia was pure magic. Winning the [Party Shop] Soul Train trophy along with a life- long friend was as thrilling as winning a coveted writing award. As I reminisce and savor the memories, I recognize how important it is to take ownership of my deepest yearnings; those seemingly small elemental desires that shape our mood and often deeply impact our demeanor. The disagreements, the tug of war over where to go, what to see, and what & where to eat were all part of the circle of events of a weekend that we aimed to make the most of. In as much as we disagreed, we also had moments of celebration and sheer delights which have left me thinking.  I cannot, should not, assign responsibility for my feelings to my husband, my friends, my family, or my children. There were several times over the weekend as we arranged to go site-seeing, prepared for the party or even while at the party that I was tempted to give in to the moment when something posed a challenge; when the moment wasn’t quite what I desired or expected. When my husband or someone in the group disappointed me, I was tempted to give in to my emotions and cast blame, holding someone else responsible for my feelings. I soon found however, that when I stepped outside of the box and refocused there was a special delight in the moment. Several plans didn’t work out the way we [I] intended: my husband refused to go site-seeing on day one. On day two my BFF’s partner refused to come on board while this time, my husband joined us. [Lesson learned-Men are as temperamental as women are.]

The Soul of Dancing

Soul Train Nostalgia

In the midst of it all, we negotiated and made space for possibilities. On the long train ride to down town Atlanta, my friend and I recalled childhood memories that had us laughing like middle school girls. Once we recognized that we had missed our way and wouldn’t get to the Aquarium as we had planned, we detoured and stopped for dinner at the first restaurant we saw. It turned out to be one of the most scrumptious meals I ever had. Worried that we might get back late for the party, we chose an expensive cab ride back to the hotel. At the party, we danced, posed for photographs and bonded with friends. The next day, we toured the King Center and were poignantly reminded of the wondrous possibilities that dreaming presents. The graphic imagery of the portraits of Dr. King and his gorgeous wife, the walk along the freedom boulevard, hearing Dr. King’s words at Ebeneezer Baptist Church stirred something deep in our soul that pushed us to let go of petty preoccupations and simply enjoy the day and all the possibilities it presented.

KING CENTER: Walking the Path of Courageous Dreaming

KING CENTER: Walking the Path of Courageous Dreaming

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